Rumer Willis Opens Up About How Motherhood Was ‘One Of The Most Validating Experiences’ She Has Had
Rumer Willis, actress and daughter of famed actors Bruce Willis and Demi Moore, has embraced motherhood with open arms and an open heart. She recently spoke about her journey and the transformative power of becoming a mother, while on set for Cleobella’s “Do It Like a Mother” campaign.
Rumer’s revelation about her destiny to be a mom came early in life. “It was never a question for me. I always knew,” she shared.
The birth of her daughter Louetta in April 2023, whom she shares with boyfriend Derek Richard Thomas, was a defining moment, as she called it “one of the most validating experiences of my life.”
“When I would share that with people, even when I was in my late 20s, they were like, ‘You’re so young. You have so much time. What’s the rush?’ I’d be like, ‘No, no. You don’t understand. This is it for me.’ As soon as I had her, it was like everything really clicked into place. It was exactly what I thought it would be. It also gave me a gift of knowing to trust my own intuition about what is right for me. I’ve never been happier in my life that I have this tiny little niblet,” she said further.
During the campaign, Rumer reportedly multitasked like a seasoned pro — breastfeeding Louetta, getting her makeup done, and discussing her new life, all with a beaming smile. Her comfort and ease in motherhood shone through as she talked about the deep connection and empowerment it brought her. “I feel like we’re in an era that is really waking up to the power that is in motherhood,” Rumer explained.
Rumer also touched on the challenges and realities of postpartum life, discussing the often lonely and misunderstood journey of new mothers. She emphasized the importance of community support and sharing experiences openly, especially as Mother’s Day approaches.
“I know, for me, giving birth in my house and having that moment and going through that, you just tap into a power greater than yourself. I think when you give birth and you go through that transition into motherhood that it really deepens that power in yourself. Then you go through postpartum, and it’s this weird, shared, lonely journey sometimes because there’s so much that people don’t talk about. I think what we’ve really lost in our society is a lot of the community of support in motherhood. So I think, for me, what’s so important, especially coming up to Mother’s Day, is I want to create a more intentional community for women to be able to share their experiences, share their choices,” she stated.
Her personal style has adapted to her new role as a mom. Rumer joked about her body changes and her new fashion necessities like button-down dresses for easy breastfeeding. “I’ve been out a couple of times where I’ve not had those kind of dresses, and you’re putting your kid all the way up in your dress. Things have moved or are a little rounder or fluffier and you’re trying to just figure out who you are. I feel like I’ve had not an identity crisis, per se, but you go through such a huge transformation because you never go back to who you were before you’re this new person. Allowing yourself the space to discover who that person is, I think, is cool,” she shared.
Despite the occasional ‘mom brain’ moments, Rumer has never felt more capable. “Motherhood is so dynamic because it can push you to your limits that you didn’t know that you could face,” she noted. Her daughter, described as a sweet and well-behaved child, has been a source of immense joy and inspiration.
Looking ahead, Rumer’s aspirations for Louetta are rooted in self-confidence and authenticity. She wants her daughter to trust her own voice and feel empowered to make her own choices, regardless of external influences. This intention is a reflection of Rumer’s broader philosophy on parenting, as she pointed out that “there’s no right way to do it. It’s all what works for your family.”
As Mother’s Day nears, Rumer plans to celebrate surrounded by the strong women in her family, cherishing the fast-moving moments with her daughter. “It’s wild when people say to you, ‘It goes by so fast,’ and you’re like, ‘Yeah, yeah, totally.’ I’m sure I’ll blink an eye, and she’ll be 6,” she mused.
